In the Lifestyle of BDSM, there is one thing that remains consistant: The Rule of Three (Safe, Sane, and Consensual). It is the guideline by which all things are done, from meeting, to negotiation, to play and quite often to a relationship itself. When things are Safe, Sane, and Consensual, the margin for error is drastically reduced, and all participants feel more at ease.
As an example, I use alcohol and drug use to show how this rule can affect U/us. If a person is under the influence of alcohol or drugs, (which, incidentally, alcohol IS A DRUG), would Y/you ever consider playing/sceneing with that person? Think about it: Alcohol is a depressant. If a scene got intense and that person under the influence was either unable or unwilling to respond to a need, how safe or sane is that?
Drugs are also a bad idea, for the same reason. If a person were high or stoned or cranked, I know that I sure as hell wouldn't want to scene with him! That's downright deadly! Sceneing with a person under the influence is often thought of as a cry for help amongst BDSM-knowledgeable suicide preventions workers!
slaves and subs, when they scene with a Dom/me, are literally putting their lives in the Dominant's hands. A trustworthy, caring Dominant can take the slave/sub into the farthest reaches of the galaxy of subspace, and quite often is delighted to do so. A Dom/me that is doped-up or drunk can literally kill or severely injure the playmate. One wrong move during blade-play or bondage scenes, and it's all over.
On the other side of that equation, a slave/sub must also be clear headed going into things, so that, if necessary, the slave can use a given safeword at any time. Drunk or toked subs/slaves seem to have excessive difficulty with this, and so are more apt to get themselves hurt or killed.
Simply put, if Y/you or Y/your portential P/partner has indulged in some drinks or a few drugs, (yes, pot counts
, do NOT scene! It's a deadly combination, something that no O/one will call Safe, Sane, or Consensual. It's NOT Safe, it's NOT SANE, and under the influence, often P/people tend to forget what happened the night/day before, so even if drunken/stoned consent is given, it's still NOT Consensual! Keep this in mind next time Y/you go to play. Make sure alcohol is not an option in Y/your negotiations and play, and please, keep it Safe, Sane, and Consensual. Keep it fun. Keep it REAL.
, do NOT scene! It's a deadly combination, something that no O/one will call Safe, Sane, or Consensual. It's NOT Safe, it's NOT SANE, and under the influence, often P/people tend to forget what happened the night/day before, so even if drunken/stoned consent is given, it's still NOT Consensual! Keep this in mind next time Y/you go to play. Make sure alcohol is not an option in Y/your negotiations and play, and please, keep it Safe, Sane, and Consensual. Keep it fun. Keep it REAL.